Today is not my birthday, but I feel compelled to mention my last birthday. It was a turning point for me.
I hate to admit it, but I am one of those people who kinda gets sad on their birthday. It’s a stupid approach, I know. But every year, as January 19th approaches, I start to feel like I should plan an extravaganza. I brainstorm bars to hold this bday event, think about who I would want to invite, of course, what I should wear, etc. But, I NEVER actually plan this event! I felt like some kind of birthday failure for not having anything planned, some kind of party to celebrate the occasion. This year I decided to take a different approach. My birthday fell on a Tuesday and I decided to take the entire day off to do whatever I wanted to do. There is a wonderful art center in Brooklyn, the Textile Arts Center, and as luck would have it, they were offering a morning class in Sashiko on my birthday. Sashiko is an embroidery practice originating in ancient Japan. I love crafts as a kid, but that interest has laid dormant in me for years. I decided the Sashiko class would be a great way to reinvigorate this interest while also doing something for myself on my birthday.
(my first Sashiko patch)
I had the best time in the class. The Textile Arts Center is such an inviting space and I felt so relaxed and in joy learning something new. After the class, I decided to grab some lunch and then do some shoe shopping. I never go shopping, I don’t treat myself in that way very often. But I desperately needed a new pair of shoes and especially wanted a pair of black ankle boots. I went to Macys and had no luck. I then decided to go to Tani on the Upper West side and found two pair of shoes that I love!
(one of two pairs of shoes I bought, black ankle bootie not shown)
After shoe shopping, I popped on over to a cafe on the UWS that sells crepes and of course had a coffee and nutella crepe. Then I headed home, cooked some dinner, talked to my mom, watched a movie, and started to call it a night. I felt so happy with my day. What I realized was that I did everything that I had wanted to do. I think in the past I had thought I should have a bar bash because that is what a lot of people do for their birthdays. I have never been successful at planning that type of birthday party because ultimately that is not what I want to do on my birthday. Not only did I have a great time on my birthday flying solo, but I also decided I’m having more days like this, not just on my birthday.